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***As family I do respect you all's opinion so please respond. I am trying to find a better way to get them to know each other but not make Kaygan feel like shes being forced away!


SO I am definitely feeling some kind of way RIGHT now...and let me tell you WHY!!!
I know at times I can be real emotional and MOST people can not handle that about me but Last night, My 2 year old daughter asked me why her Daddy couldn't spend her birthday with her?

Right the look on her face was so SAD...It made me cry..For Cryng out loud she's 2 and has to process this type of emotion already...I know I cant PROTECT her from everything BUT DAMN IT its my job to TRY and at this point in OUR lives I just dont have the time or energy to waste on ANYONE who isnt on the same page as me!
SO here's a lil background story if you dont already know....me and her father havent been together for almost 3yrs now...which is fine..WE didnt work but we were BLESSED with her and now have to find a way to be BETTER PARENTS...Better than our PARENT at least (we are both from broken homes).
No niether on of us are perfect not trying to pretend to be but I do know my daughter and I know on a certain level how she's gonna respond. WE stay in Oklahoma he in Cali....
She has only seen/meet her father a total of 5 maybe 6 times. So to her he is a STRANGER...But for some reason he CAN not or refuses to see this....WE argue everytime we talk because I wont allow him to take her with him to Cali or even an hour away if she doesn't want to go...and after last night I am still standing firm in my decision. HE is not very consistent with TRYING to stay in contact with her and everytime he comes to visit WE (my family and I) break our backs to try and make him and his company feel welcome and accomadating to their schedules...Taking off of work...leaving school early....DOING EVERYTHING so that Kaygan is comfortable around them...
WELL NOT ANYMORE...I'm gonna start being SELFISH for the sake of my daughter...SHE needs consistency, LOVE and most of all understanding and since it seems like I'm the only one who thinks or cares about that then I guess the rest will just have to fall in line!
LOL...When I first started this I was gonna ask for ways to try to communicate better with her father and maybe ways to try to be more accomadating...
But I realized that the only person I need to worry about accomadating is KAYGAN RENEE COURTNEY!

KAYGAN is TWO

Two years ago, I got one of the best SURPRISES MY first BORN daughter Kaygan Renee was born at 6:36am after only 4 DRUG-free relatively easy hours of Labour. Even after Graduating Highschool and College with a double Bachelors' Degree I will say that SHE is the one of the BEST things that I have EVER made or accomplish...
My lil girl's smile can Brighten anyone's day and when she looks up at me and sayd "mommy" no matter what my heart melts....Kaygan Mommy' LOVES YOU





***her sister Jayla is just as cute too..but I am a lil BIASED!!!
Jayla and Cousin Raja sleeping

Spare the ROD...

As A Parent I think this is pretty intersting! This details a study about how SPANKING can cause children to be more agreesive... A GOOD whooping cant solve everything!

I hear alot of people who say that It worked for them so why not their children- Mainly form those who don't have children.... but I will say I was spanked when i was younger but not for every single little thing that I did...They were reserved for my special moments...

What I have noticed with my girls is that SPANKING isn't always needed...With Kaygan (almost 2) time-out will work...being stern works.... I noticed that my sister is a strict disciplinary..(whooping after whooping is her way). After a weekend with her Kaygan loves to hit and bite..hmmm connection...yeap...At her age she thinks its a game...you hit her and she hits back...
Wait.what..Yep SHE will hit you back....now I have learned that I'm TEACHING her that hitting is ok..... LIGHT BULB..Stop hitting her...

Now this works for me and my CHILD..to each his own..

Kaygan's DC # 2

SO Kaygan's DC's have kinda taking a back seat to her RINGWORM!!! This lil bugger of mine LOVEs, LOVEs, LOVEs Dirt, grass, animals...and she picked up a ringworm from her love of dirt..(I'll never understand for someone who hates to get their hairwashed, why she insists on putting things in her hair...ie EVERYTHING)

So we haven't been able to do much with her hair since she had to keep it "dry"...Our routine has been..every 2-3 days wahs her hair with Selsun Blue Medicated Shampoo, Condition her hair only, and put her "Kentolozoan" cream on top and style around her lil bald spot...ARGH

So now that it has started to clear up and she's cleared to go back to school, I decided she needed a good deep conditioner, to add some shine and sheen to her unruly do!!!
What I used was a Bluberry Banana conditioner:

Half a container of blueberry Banana baby food, added 1 tablespoon of honey, mixed in some VO5 Tea Tree Conditioner...
I rinsed her hair with warm water, shampoo'd with the selsun blue, then rinsed with diluted ACV (1 part AVC to 4 parts H2O) from there I applied our lil home made mix and combed it thru....Here I detagled and put into four sections (mindful to keep her infected part dry and separated) we let this sit for about 20 mins...we went and watched an episode of the Care bears in case your wondering!!LOL
Rinse with luke warm water and applied Coconut oil mixed with jojoba and avocado oil... and out the door we go




Also: FYI Jayla just turned 5 months yay..and we celebrated with a lil mini party where she got to taste her first piece of cake and ICE CREAM!!!! and in hair issues I usually dont do much with Jayla's hair..It is very THICK and Curly and she still has both her soft spots so she usually just gets a quick comb thrue and some oil...Yesterday we did 2 ponytails...to cute even though she didn't like the process
I did 2 ponytails on top where her hair is the thickest...I used to coated bands and just a lil bit of oil.... TOO CUTE




FYI: My mom is from the country and we tend to use those old time remedies for things like wingworm and small issues, but in this instance I didnt want to try putting bleach on her hair bc she's out in the sun alot...and the OTC creams didnt work....I always advise that if a home remedy doesnt work in a couple of days go to the DR.... Better Safe than Sorry

Kaygans first DC

So after a lil research I knew that there was something that I Wasnt doing right with my lil ones hair...Mainly Kaygan would get her hair washed with Johnson N Johnson baby shampoo, a lil bit of kids detangler and some grease and ponytails...But lately I've noticed that her hair length has been about the same since shes turned 1. She has 3 maybe 4A hair...It very curly and thick in the crown and wispy and thin around the perimeter.

So this Sunday we tried a DC using 1/2 Coconut Oil, (6 drops)Jojoba oil and 1/2 Lusters Cholestorel Conditioner....AND IT turned out GREAT!!! Her hair was really soft and her curls were way more defined...IT was easier to comb though and SHE didnt yell at me that I was hurting her!!! Yeah...So this will probaly be added to our week-end to do list...



Just for fun: Kaygan playing dress up in some old clothes and decided to use her yogurt cup as a face masks...LOL Gotta love the kiddies. Isn't she CUTE!!!